A Kind Valentines Day To all Single Moms

The history of Valentine’s Day—and the story of its supporter saint—is covered in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of sentiment, which St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it nowadays, contains remnants of both Christian and old Roman tradition.

Before writing this article, I researched the history of this beloved holiday. What I found was somewhat interesting if you’re not familiar with its origin. I’m not going to bore you with history today. You’re welcome. Instead, I thought I would share my personal thoughts and maybe a few helpful tips for those of you who find yourself in same boat as me. How a single mom spends their Valentine’s Day.

Are you a single mother? Valentine’s Day takes on new meaning once you are a single mom. On the off chance that you’re trying to find ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day along with your kid/s and love ones.

Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love. -Leo Buscaglia
And that’s may depend on your definition of love.

At times you have to shift your focus a little or single parenthood can get quite lonely. February 14th is definitely one of those times.

No one plans on being separated from their husband. Little girls do not spin around in front of their mirror wearing a pillow case veil dreaming of court dates and custody hearings. I didn’t anticipate that this day would come. That I will be spending valentines day without a partner. But it happens. It happened to me five years ago.

When I was with my husband, we didn’t make a enormous deal out of Valentine’s Day. I continuously thought you ought to celebrate your relationship more than one day out of the year. We traded cards and possibly a favorite piece of sweet, but that was it. Presently that I’m separated– as reverse as it sounds – I look forward to this time of year. Romance doesn’t fundamentally adored. I have cherished my child, my family, and the companions around me on a much more profound level since I became separated. I’ve learned that life is brief, and doesn’t continuously turn out the way we dreamed. I am careful to form the most of each moment. I make the most out of Valentine’s Day!

My child, JR, and I regularly celebrate by cooking nourishing foods and desserts. Because restaurants are continuously so crowded, even when you go early. And since he is just a toddler I’m enjoying observing his nursery rhymes videos and a few of his games on the phone, while enjoying some sweet desserts etc.

Some Activities to Spend on Valentine’s Day!
1. Get a movie online, pop popcorn and curl up on the couch together, you can “spice” things up a bit by drinking sparkling apple cider in fancy wine glasses!
2. Swing by the local store and buy craft materials to make homemade Valentine cards for friends and family.
3. Make a pizza and cut the pepperonis or some ingredients into hearts!
4. Toddlers always enjoy Play-Doh. So I always allow my toddler to help me with the dough. They enjoyed cutting or shaping dough with different sizes and colors.
5. Forego the cookie rolls (like the ones I use) and make your own heart-shaped cookies from scratch.
6. Using red food coloring and pop Valentine’s popcorn – you can find many recipes on Google. Make sure you have fun decorative plates or bowls!
7. Put a drop of red food dye in shaving cream (unscented) and play on the surface of your kitchen or dining room table – this one’s ALWAYS a hit if you have smaller children. It’s super easy to clean up afterwards.

Celebrate your own Valentine
There are some ways you can celebrate and make the most out of Valentine’s Day. I’m sure you’ll have no problem coming up with creative things to do. So my aim is to offer encouragement and hopefully give you a jump start.
I would be lying if I told you I was not depressed the first Valentine’s Day I spent without my spouse. I missed those days we spent together and until now I cherish those sweet memories we had in the past. It was hard. But yeah, I will tell you it gets easier. And it helps if, instead of drowning in waves of misery and self-pity, you celebrate the most precious little person(s) you DO have at your side. Valentine’s Day may not look the same for the single mom (or dad), but it certainly can be as fulfilling. Even more so, if you ask me. Love is baking cookies, playing with kid/s or watching movies while drinking sparkling cider out of fancy glasses. Your relationship status shouldn’t matter. Valentine’s Day can be a great day for you. Valentine’s day is not always for couples but to all whose is in love with their loved ones!

Happy Valentine’s day to my son JR and all single parents out their.. Cheers!!